When Women Smile At You, Other Women Want You More

It’s a really easy way to become more attractive, sexy and desirable to a woman: have other woman smile at you.

Now, in the seduction and pick up world, we have known that for quiet some time, but what I didn’t know is that even scientists know that! (They actually did a study about this).

If a woman sees that other women smile at you, she will find you more attractive.

What’s also interesting – according to a study women who have been drinking find guys around 25% more attractive. So get them to drink something. And I don’t mean trash them. Just a glass of wine will be fine. Because alcohol stimulates the part of our brain that determines facial attractiveness of other people.

Now, the video also hands out some really crap advice – basically telling you to suck up to a woman by flattering her, making the conversation all about her, laughing at her jokes etc. If you try that in the real world with attractive women – good luck. (Yeah, it DOES work with the ugly, boring ducklings that never have anyone laughing at their jokes or paying them a compliment, but to a woman that’s attractive, this is just a turnoff, because she gets it all the time from guys).

But here’s an interesting thing: if you have opposing views about something, and then you let her win you over to her side, so that you change your opinion to hers, makes you more attractive. Honestly, I haven’t tried that, and it goes to my instinct in the first place. But I’ll check it.

Here Comes The Man In Red

I just read about an interesting study. It shows that women are more attracted to men wearing red than any other color.

Now – of course this doesn’t mean the chicks will come after you like mad when you put on a red shirt – but knowing stuff like this, you can easily do one more thing to stack the chances in your favor. (Yes, it has a micro-effect, but add a hundred small things like this together and you got something powerful).

Apart of telling you to wear red shirts when you want to attract women, I find the study fascinating.

Apparently, there is some biological mechanism that makes the color red more attractive. And in China for example, red has always been a color that has been associated with wealth and power (remember – they got this whole feng shui thing going on for thousands of years already, and the use of colors is a big part of it).

The lead author of the story said:

“We found that women view men in red as higher in status, more likely to make money and more likely to climb the social ladder. And it’s this high-status judgment that leads to the attraction.”

Now, does that make any logical sense? Is it reasonable?

No, not at all.

But if you’ve been reading my dating advice column for any amount of time, you already know that nothing about attraction is reasonable or logical. It’s EMOTIONAL. And when you simply get to know the emotional triggers of women, then all you have to do is to push their buttons and they’ll be like ice melting in your hands.

How To Become Really Successful With Women

If you want to become really successful with women,

then you need to become really successful at being a man.

Look, let’s face it:

you’re not all you can be.

You’re a slacker.

Maybe a slacker with discipline, maybe you’re a slacker that’s working hard and pushing himself…

… but in the end, you know that you’re not at your max.

You’re not all that you can be as a man.

You’ve not fulfilled 100% of your potential.

Because it’s so comfortable not being at 100%.

It’s so comfortable to hang out in the 30s or 40s.

Feels so good and safe to be around the 60s and 70s.

But anything more than that, you usually get into some serious head-games.

“Am I really able to do this?” “Do I really deserve that kind of life?” “Can this really be possible?”

And usually “no” is the easy way out.

It’s kind of like the Sirens in greek mythology, the beautiful women that seduce men with their singing and lead them into death.

You have your own Sirens inside of you, that lead to the death of the man that you could be.

So be the man you could be first, and success with women will come.

Bad Guys, Hot Girls & Ice-Cream

Guys still send me emails because they’re puzzled why women so often feel irrationally attracted to jerks.

Why the don’t take the nice guy that’s good for them, but instead let the bad guy abuse them, cheat on them and treat them badly.

Now, that’s a behavior that’s not so uncommon at all.

Yes, it’s irrational. It doesn’t make sense logically.

But it’s not uncommon.

Just look at yourself:

Do you always eat what’s best for you? What’s healthy?

Or do you also sometimes eat things that are bad for you, but they are so tasty?

We all know that sugar is bad.

Yet, products that contain sugar (or artificial sweeteners) are often the ones that have the highest margins (because people value it highly, they are willing to pay for it), and that sell the largest volume (people want a lot of it).

Heck, I love ice-cream.

Not eating ice-cream would be good for me. And eating ice-cream is surely bad for my health, not just for me teeth.

But I get so much enjoyment out of it, that I do it despite my better knowledge.

Well… bad guys are kind of like ice-cream for hot girls.

Not because they’re bad, but because they’re cool in a way that’s very attractive to hot girls.

So learn to be cool.

Attraction Makes You King Or Slave

Something important about attracting women that you should understand.

In fact, it’s about attraction in general, so let me start with it from YOUR perspective.

When you see a really hot woman dancing, do you notice that something happens with you?

There’s an emotional reaction going on.

(If you don’t know what I’m talking about, go to a club where really hot girls dance, or go to a high-class striptease bar).

When a really attractive woman dances really sexy in front of you, it does something.

It creates intense attraction.

She is giving you some kinds of signals that change the way you feel.

(And these changes are basically chemical reactions that happen inside your brain).

Some women are better than others at emitting the “signals” that cause these chemical reactions in your brain.

They do it with their body language, gestures and voice tone.

Now if that hot woman is dancing really sexy in front of you… can you just “stop it” and be totally cool? (I mean not just acting cool, but feeling totally at easy and NOT attracted?).

You really don’t have any conscious control over deep emotions like that.

In a way, it’s hypnotizing.

So the hotter the woman, and the more sexy she dances, the less conscious control you have about yourself and the situation.

This is an important point:

the more attracted you are, the less control you have about yourself and the situation.

Do you see a shift in power?

The one that feels attracted is in a position of inferior power to the one that creates the attraction.

That is why it’s important that you are the one who creates the attraction.

Fortunately, women respond to different signals than men. I’m really not a good enough dancer to have that kind of effect on women.

Women respond to the way you talk, the sound of your voice, the way you move, your facial expressions – things that you CAN control and improve. It’s about your character and your personality.

And if you learn how to attract really hot women, then you are the one who is in control. And it’s fun to play with a woman’s attraction. Once you experience that, you will see that dating really is a game, and it’s a fun game, and you’ll enjoy playing it. And the more you enjoy playing it, the better you will become at it.

Some guys think this is a cruel, dog-eat-dog style approach to romance.

But I tell you what. I love to fall in love as much as the next guy. I love to be in love with a woman as much as any other guy. And heck, I love romantic moments if it’s not cheesy Hollywood-style stuff.

But you need to get out of that Disney-fantasy world. The game is being played in the real world. And there are some harsh truths to face in the real world. Closing your eyes and trying not to see them won’t help you to be happier. You need to face reality first – and then you can discover all the beautiful stuff that’s there.

Reality has good things and bad things. That’s life. You have to make a choice: do you want to live in a fantasy-bubble because you only want the good things, or do you want to live in the real world, experience real pleasure, even if there’s bad stuff to cope with too?

That’s the difference between a guy who spends his life surfing porn sites and a guy who spends his life with really hot, beautiful, sexy women around him.

A firm grip on reality.

Personal Rejection Power

Basically there are two BIG fears around women:

The fear of approaching women, and the fear of being rejected by women.

And while we often mix the two up together, they are actually different.

The reason why “rejection” hurts so much is because you take it personally.

If you don’t take it personally, it won’t hurt.

If you take it for what it is, it doesn’t matter.

Only if you make a big thing out of it, and draw all kinds of conclusions (like: “Oh, I’m not worthy, I’m too ugly, I’m too stupid, lalala”) will she have power over you.

Never let her have power over you. The secret of being a man is holding your power.

Approach A Hot Girl (Because She Wants It Too)

Next time you see a really hot woman in some bar or nightclub, I want you to stop your mind for a second.

Because for many guys, what’s going on in their minds is this:

“Oh, man, look at that hot chick! I wanna talk with her… but… she’s out of my league, or she probably has a boyfriend already, or I’ll just screw up somehow”.

That’s not exactly what will make you successful with women.

Instead, think this:

“Look at that sweetie. She put at that time and effort into dressing up like that, and look at her hair and makeup. She did all of that to get attention, she enjoys attention. I’m gonna give her some, she’ll like it.”

Do you get that?

It’s much better than: “Oh, I couldn’t talk with a girl like that.”

And it’s true: if she’s made herself up like this, she did so because she DOES want attention.

And if you want to get good with girls, then you should not let a chance like this pass.

Bust Her

Here’s something for you to really keep in mind.

I mean, engrave it in your mind, so that you don’t have to think of it. It’s just there. That’s what you want.

Whenever you are around an attractive woman, act, speak, think and feel like you demand that she lives up to her potential.

Read that last sentence again.

And again.

You must demand from her that she lives up to her potential.

Because you know what?

She doesn’t live up to her potential right now.

She’s just as lazy and slouchy as any other person in the world. Sometime, she just wants a break. She’s not at her best. And deep down inside, she knows that.

And she can’t get her ass up by herself.

That’s why she wants a challenge.

And the only one who can truly challenge her is a man.

A strong man.

A manly man.

Be that man.

Attracting Girls With Your NEW AND IMPROVED Personality

Yesterday I wrote that women want personality.

And I wrote you that it’s easy to “improve” your personality to attract chicks.

By that I don’t mean that you should change who you are and pretend to be someone else.

Rather, I mean that you have to discover a part of your personality that you’ve simply not yet fully developed.

Yes, it’s a part of YOUR personality.

It’s the manly part of your personality.

It’s something that is already inside of you.

So you don’t need to twist yourself around, or try to look for it elsewhere.

It’s just something that you need to shake up and wake up.

And if you do, women will love to be with you.

Attracting Girls If You’re An Ugly Guy

I know a lot of guys that don’t date enough women because they think they don’t look good enough.

They are afraid that the women won’t be interested in them because they can’t keep up with Brad Pitt or George Clooney.

And I get why so many men think that way.

They think that women won’t be interested in an average or below-average looking guy because they are not interested in an average or below-average looking girl.

It’s a fact that men and women are attracted to different things.

Men are mainly attracted to looks (first).

Women are mainly attracted to PERSONALITY.

It’s not looks.

And if you doubt that, I suggest you go to any crowded place and count couples.

I want you to categorize the couples:

Category A:  hot dudes and ugly chicks.

Category B:  hot chicks and ugly dudes.

Category C: approximately equally looking partners.

You’ll find that there are A LOT more in the B category than in the A category.

(Many guys think the reason is money. But while that might be true in 10% of the cases, in most cases hot chicks stick to ugly guys because of their personality!)

And that’s good news for you if you don’t look like the guy from the Coke ad.

Because there’s very little you can improve about your looks.

But your personality?

It’s easy to improve your personality in just the right areas to attract chicks.