Basically there are two BIG fears around women:
The fear of approaching women, and the fear of being rejected by women.
And while we often mix the two up together, they are actually different.
The reason why “rejection” hurts so much is because you take it personally.
If you don’t take it personally, it won’t hurt.
If you take it for what it is, it doesn’t matter.
Only if you make a big thing out of it, and draw all kinds of conclusions (like: “Oh, I’m not worthy, I’m too ugly, I’m too stupid, lalala”) will she have power over you.
Never let her have power over you. The secret of being a man is holding your power.