One of the best things you can do when you’re on a date with a girl is to just listen. I know, that’s old, generic dating advice. But keep at it. Because when you are listening, you are letting her talk. (And women love that).
What you can do though is to direct the flow of the conversation – just nudge it a bit in the direction you want most.
Let her talk about herself.
You know why you want her to talk about herself?
Because it makes her feel good. In fact, scientists found out the the same pleasure-reward centers in the brain get activated when people talk about themselves that also get activated when they eat food or have sex! They used a functional magnetic resonance imaging scanner to look into the brains of people as they were talking about themselves, and compared the activation patterns with those of when the volunteers talked about other things.