First Date Advice

For me personally, this was the most important first date advice I got when I started out becoming a master seducer.

There is a major difference in how women behave compared to how men behave.

Women usually tend to be a lot more casual and relaxed. If a woman is too clingly or too needy, well, that’s not gonna be fun. If I were to summarize how a woman thinks about a first date, it would be an attitude like this: “This guy is attractive. I like to get to know him better to see if he’s a good match.”

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A man on the other hand usually has an attitude like this: “I want to get her. I want her to be my girlfriend, or maybe my future wife, or maybe just have some sex with her.”

Now, again, I want to point out the difference very clearly:

A woman goes on a first date to get to know you better. A man goes on a first date hoping to “get something” out of it – in the worst case, another date, but in the best case, sex and/or love right away.

What’s why so many men act so nervous on first dates. Because they want something (badly), and they are “afraid to screw it up”. And a woman notices that. And it’s not attractive to her at all. A woman doesn’t want to be with a man that’s scared and nervous. Women are scared and nervous enough themselves. They want a man that’s confident.

So what can you do about it? How not to be nervous on a first date? It’s actually quiet easy. Let me tell you a story, and you’ll know what I mean.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship, then you probably know those first days and weeks when you just got together. Everything was nice and rosy and fun. She was perfect (almost). Everything she did… was kind of cute or sexy.

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As the weeks and months pass by, something happens. You start to notice more and more things that aren’t so cute and sexy. Things that are… annoying about her. All those little imperfections that she hid from you in the beginning and that are now slowly starting to show up – and also all these little imperfections that you just didn’t want to see at first because things felt so good. But now, that’s kind of fading. And when she does those things that annoy you, you feel very different towards her. Now she doesn’t seem so desirable to you anymore, not the same way she did before – at least momentarily. Now, there’s something that’s not attractive to you anymore – in fact, it’s something you don’t want. And that gives you a lot of emotional leeway to cool down and level the playing field.

Now, simply think of these things on a first day. Be aware that this woman – the girl that seems so hot and nice and all – has some serious screwups. She still might be hot and great and everything – but there are things that you don’t know about now that will simply annoy you about her. Think of those things already – and all that nervous excitement will be cooled down. And that’s the state you want to be in: relaxed, cool.

That doesn’t mean you should become all paranoid and try to find out what’s wrong with her. Just know that there are some negative things about her – and she knows that there are negative things about her too.

Ok, I want to give you an idea of what exactly I’m talking about. For example, let’s say you go out on a dinner and she orders some food – you can say something like: “You like that? Ah, you’re screwing up your chances with me.” (Of course, don’t say it as if you were disgusted. Say it in a kind of cool and funny way, ambigious, so that she can’t quiet tell whether you’re kidding or whether you’re serious.)

Compare that to what most goes do: “Oh, that’s a very good choice.” “You like mushrooms? Oh, I love mushrooms, that’s so cool!” “Oh, now I know why you’re so beautiful – you take good care of yourself and eat healthy.” Yes, all those things are nice and fine, and they will make her smile – but some part of her mind will go like this: “Oh what a boring loser”.

Now, if she does some small mistake – let’s say she spills some wine or just makes a loud noise with her plate or coughs… say something like: “It’s just not going to work between the two of us.” Or: “What did I tell you about that behavior?”. You have to get it right in terms of balancing being funny and being just an asshole – and there’s one guy that will help you to do this better than anyone else…

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