One of the best things you can do when you’re on a date with a girl is to just listen. I know, that’s old, generic dating advice. But keep at it. Because when you are listening, you are letting her talk. (And women love that).

What you can do though is to direct the flow of the conversation – just nudge it a bit in the direction you want most.

Let her talk about herself.

You know why you want her to talk about herself?

Because it makes her feel good. In fact, scientists found out the the same pleasure-reward centers in the brain get activated when people talk about themselves that also get activated when they eat food or have sex! They used a functional magnetic resonance imaging scanner to look into the brains of people as they were talking about themselves, and compared the activation patterns with those of when the volunteers talked about other things.

It’s a really easy way to become more attractive, sexy and desirable to a woman: have other woman smile at you.

Now, in the seduction and pick up world, we have known that for quiet some time, but what I didn’t know is that even scientists know that! (They actually did a study about this).

If a woman sees that other women smile at you, she will find you more attractive.

What’s also interesting – according to a study women who have been drinking find guys around 25% more attractive. So get them to drink something. And I don’t mean trash them. Just a glass of wine will be fine. Because alcohol stimulates the part of our brain that determines facial attractiveness of other people.

Now, the video also hands out some really crap advice – basically telling you to suck up to a woman by flattering her, making the conversation all about her, laughing at her jokes etc. If you try that in the real world with attractive women – good luck. (Yeah, it DOES work with the ugly, boring ducklings that never have anyone laughing at their jokes or paying them a compliment, but to a woman that’s attractive, this is just a turnoff, because she gets it all the time from guys).

But here’s an interesting thing: if you have opposing views about something, and then you let her win you over to her side, so that you change your opinion to hers, makes you more attractive. Honestly, I haven’t tried that, and it goes to my instinct in the first place. But I’ll check it.

Pay attention guys. There is a trillion girls on Facebook, most of them awaiting the best guy. Which guy, is not really approaching for whatever reason. Probably because a lot of guys are lost in space with regards to attracting a woman online. They struggle picking her track of utterly stupid get lines, plus some other “Joe in the hood” crap. Facebook is really a mecca for dating – Knowing using it. And never many guys realize that. I’ve had sex with one hundred ladies who I’ve met through Facebook – and that i made it happen by relaxing in my pajamas. This can sound cheesy, but when I will get it done, well… you obviously can’t, or else you would not be looking over this, yet. However, you COULD get it done.

If you’re seriously interested in altering your Facebook dating fortune, you need to improve your actions. First get rid of the bad stuff, then focus on doing the great stuff – which will get her, and keep her, thinking about you. Listed here are two thing that you ought to STOP doing:

#1 – Stop displaying interest in early stages. Most guys screw up in the beginning. I truly do not understand the reason a lot of individuals guys shoot yourself within the foot. Let’s imagine you signal her a close friends Request and she or he accepts it. Don’t send her a note immediately. She’s getting that time. If you’re Exactly the same like everybody else – why would she have relations with you, when she will get it done with other people. Consider it. A man that starts liking each and every picture she’s, or status update, or starts harassing her with messages. Giving a woman compliments in the WRONG time can screw up things – and she’ll provide you with a NO immediately. Don’t shoot yourself within the foot, allow her to come your way, don’t chase her down just like a dog.

I understand that many guys make use of the “numbers game”, they ATTACK as numerous girls as you possibly can, hoping that certain of these will “fall”. That’s nonsense. Quality over quantity guys… should you focus on yourself, they’ll come.

#2 – Log off of Facebook. Don’t sit around home before your pc trying to puzzle out things to tell a woman. If you do not understand what to express, then GO Make a move together with your life. You will have Absolutely nothing to say if whatever you do all day long is hold out on Facebook’s Chat for many girl to look. Or should you spy on her behalf 24/7.  You don’t wish to seem like a LOSER which has absolutely nothing to do in the life apart from take a seat on Facebook. You shouldn’t be an addict. It isn’t attractive. Guys that update their status 15 times each day, which are overactive online just appear COMMON, too available – and never mysterious enough. Every hot chick will confirm you that. So if you’re spending a lot of time on Facebook – without actually getting RESULTS (sex), then switch off your pc. Or at best – don’t allow it to be visible for them that you’re online constantly.

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Now a lot of guys who aren’t as successful with women as they want to be have kind of issues with fashion.

Sometimes they think fashion isn’t manly. Or they think that caring about fashion is somehow female, or gay.

Or they just don’t care.

It doesn’t matter what it is: if you want to be more successful with women, upgrading your sense of fashion is a really good idea.

I’m not saying that you can’t pick up women when you’re dressed badly. You can. It’s just a lot more difficult.

And you can enhance your chances of succeeding with women many times by just dressing better.

(Btw. that does not mean you have to wear expensive brand-name clothes or anything like that. You don’t need to spend a fortune on clothing.)

But how do you develop your sense of fashion?

Well, there are really two ways that I want to recommend you.

First is: make use of your observation skills.

Look at how other people are dressed. And particularly, look at how people dress who are successful with women.

Look at the details and try to understand what makes them look good.

And the second piece of advice on developing your sense of fashion is way more powerful.

Go shopping at least every week. The more the better.

You don’t have to buy anything. But just go into a clothing store and try on different outfits.

Also try on things that you have no intention of buying, or even wearing, and that you think are totally ridiculous. But just try them on to see what it does to your appearance.

This really does two things:

First, you will get a better eye for what makes you look good.

And second, it will build up the confidence inside you to wear things that you might not feel comfortable in right now.

And realize this: going into a clothing store, trying out clothes and not buying anything is totally fine.

A lot of guys worry about the sales staff. What’s the sales staff going to think if I come in here and don’t buy anything? And then they have to put the clothes back and this and that.

But you know what?

That’s they job.

That’s what they get paid for.

They get paid for being there for people who want to try on and buy clothes.

They are already getting paid by the hour, whether you walk in there or not.

And oftentimes, the sales staff in clothing stores is female (and good looking). And you can use that as another opportunity to practice your seduction skills and increase your confidence with women.

Being manly matters. Because women like manly men. At least the emotionally healthy and stable kind of women like a more manly man.

But let’s face it: it doesn’t come natural to all of us guys.

Here’s a funny video from the HowCast crew on how to be a more manly man.

I’ve written in the past too (and not in a funny way) on how to be more manly.

Online dating is a great way to hook up with hot girls. However, there is a right way, and about a thousand wrong ways to do it.

Think about your online dating username for example. A lot of guys either don’t put enough thought into this, or they don’t think about it at all.

Here’s a short video clip that gives you some of the do’s and don’ts of choosing an online dating profile username.

They do share some general good advice, and it is true that the online username that you choose is part of the first impression – and even more so an element of the image you create. Because with every chat conversation and every exchange, in the online world your name is much more present than in the real world, where your face, tone of voice and body languages comes in far more heavy.

However, a username alone won’t get you far – it takes a few more nifty tricks to make the online dating game really easy.

If you want to know how to become good at seduction, watch the guy in this video and then emulate him.

And it doesn’t matter how handsome or smart you look or not look. Just watch the guy, see how he acts, how he looks and try to feel how he feels.

He’s got his game down.

I can’t emphasize enough how important ATTITUDE is when it comes to girls.

And this is one way to build that attitude. This is how you BUILD charisma – you practice it!

Seriously, watch the video and then copy his gestures, his looks, his facial expressions.

Practice them with your eyes closed, with your eyes open and in front of the mirror.

Practice them recording yourself, and practice several versions of it.

When you KNOW how you are perceived by others, that alone makes you so much more confident. And it puts you in control.

Most insecure guys simply don’t know how to bluff. They simply don’t know what others think about them – and that makes them totally insecure.

I just read about an interesting study. It shows that women are more attracted to men wearing red than any other color.

Now – of course this doesn’t mean the chicks will come after you like mad when you put on a red shirt – but knowing stuff like this, you can easily do one more thing to stack the chances in your favor. (Yes, it has a micro-effect, but add a hundred small things like this together and you got something powerful).

Apart of telling you to wear red shirts when you want to attract women, I find the study fascinating.

Apparently, there is some biological mechanism that makes the color red more attractive. And in China for example, red has always been a color that has been associated with wealth and power (remember – they got this whole feng shui thing going on for thousands of years already, and the use of colors is a big part of it).

The lead author of the story said:

“We found that women view men in red as higher in status, more likely to make money and more likely to climb the social ladder. And it’s this high-status judgment that leads to the attraction.”

Now, does that make any logical sense? Is it reasonable?

No, not at all.

But if you’ve been reading my dating advice column for any amount of time, you already know that nothing about attraction is reasonable or logical. It’s EMOTIONAL. And when you simply get to know the emotional triggers of women, then all you have to do is to push their buttons and they’ll be like ice melting in your hands.

Here is a nice one when it comes to understanding a women’s body language.
Look at her eyes.
More specifically at her pupils.

The bigger her pupil dilation, the more interested she is. So if she looks at you and you can see that the round black circle in the center of your eye is huge, that’s a very good sign. Somehow, unconciosculy the more interested a woman is, the bigger her pupils will be.

And if you see two really big black circles, she either is on some kind of drugs or you can move right ahead and kiss her (or maybe more).

If you want to become really successful with women,

then you need to become really successful at being a man.

Look, let’s face it:

you’re not all you can be.

You’re a slacker.

Maybe a slacker with discipline, maybe you’re a slacker that’s working hard and pushing himself…

… but in the end, you know that you’re not at your max.

You’re not all that you can be as a man.

You’ve not fulfilled 100% of your potential.

Because it’s so comfortable not being at 100%.

It’s so comfortable to hang out in the 30s or 40s.

Feels so good and safe to be around the 60s and 70s.

But anything more than that, you usually get into some serious head-games.

“Am I really able to do this?” “Do I really deserve that kind of life?” “Can this really be possible?”

And usually “no” is the easy way out.

It’s kind of like the Sirens in greek mythology, the beautiful women that seduce men with their singing and lead them into death.

You have your own Sirens inside of you, that lead to the death of the man that you could be.

So be the man you could be first, and success with women will come.