The thing is: you’re not the only man on earth who has this problem. In fact, millions of men ejaculate too quick!
I don’t know the statistics, but if the amount of emails and questions I get about this subject is representative, then I think it’s something like two to four out of ten men who are having trouble with premature ejaculation.
Just today I got an email from a guy who said that whenever he sticks it into a girl, he cums almost instantly. Instant Orgasm – if you could put that in a bag and sell it to women, you’d be rich. For a man though, not so good.
How much time it takes to ejaculate, this varies for every man, and even for every time that you have sex. Sometimes you might last longer, sometimes you finish off faster. The good thing is – this isn’t a medical condition or anything. So you can actually do something about it. You can train yourself to last longer and delay your ejaculation. The bad thing is: like many things, it takes practice, practice, practice.
You really don’t need pills or creams. I know a lot of guys think that a numbing cream or anaesthesia gels helps them, but I think that’s a really f#cked up idea. Why would you want to numb your d!ck with some chemical stuff? If you do this too often too long, maybe you won’t get it up anymore properly, and that’s much worse then cumming too soon.
There are some exercises that can help you (PE exercises), but the thing is: just training these muscles alone will probably not be enough0.
Kegel exercises are a good start and definitely something you should do. The nice thing is you can do these exercises everywhere and every time. The easiest way is to simply do it when you’re on the toilet first. When you’re urinating, simply stop the stream of urine midflow. The muscle that you’re using to stop the flow of urine is the same muscle that you want to train (it’s called PC muscle). And then you want to flex this muscle during your everyday activities, so you can do it while you’re reading this text, or checking Facebook, or waiting in line at the cashier or whenever.
The Way You Masturbate
The way you masturbate probably is one of the reasons why you cum too soon. You want to masturbate in a way that helps you to last longer. So don’t go about it rushed. Instead, do it slowly and before you get to that point where you are about to cum, simply take a break and cool down a bit before you continue. This is called edging, and you want to practice it a bit longer.
Watch Your Thoughts?
Now the most common advice is to think unsexy thoughts. Like thinking of a washing machine or something like that and really focusing on that. I don’t think that’s a good idea. It might sometimes help you to last a bit longer, but it also makes sex much less fun. And after all, that’s what it’s all about, right? You can use it as a “mental emergency break” sometimes if you need it, but there are really better ways to delay your ejaculation.
It’s true that drinking can sometimes help you to last a little longer, so you might want to try that. But again, this is just one of these short-time tactics, and it’s not really what I recommend. Also, it works better for some guys than for others. But I’m talking drinking in moderation, don’t get totally shitfaced.
This is another piece of common advice – the idea is that you do foreplay longer, so that she’ll climax sooner too when you insert your penis into her vagina. While this isn’t a bad idea, it still doesn’t stop you from cumming to soon. It’s just a workaround.
Ultimately, in most cases there is not a single thing or technique that will really help you if you stop to soon. You need to address this problem from all sides: physiological, psychological and also hormonal. There’s a simple step-by-step guide on how to do this, click here to download it.